Grief As We Approach the Holidays

As we approach the holidays, we need to recognize that some of the people we encounter will be experiencing grief. Or maybe we have recently experienced a loss and are dreading the Holidays. Grief is both a necessity and a privilege; it arises from the deep love we have for those we’ve lost. This season, don’t let anyone take your grief away or expect others to put it on the back burner. Embrace it as part of the journey of life and love yourself or others fiercely. Be patient, allow the space to feel emotions while surrounding yourself or loved ones with loving, caring people who understand what is happening.

It’s perfectly okay for you or for others to express anger at God during this time—He can handle it. Engaging in any conversation with Him is what He desires; He knows how you feel and understands your pain. So many of the Psalms written by David were angry words hurled at God. Ignoring these feelings or pretending everything is okay will only prolong the healing process. Find constructive ways to include the loved one in holiday festivities. Light a candle in their memory or invite friends and family to share their favorite stories about them. Consider doing something special in their honor, like volunteering at a shelter or giving gifts to children who may not receive much.

If you find yourself struggling, don’t hesitate to ask for help—grief is not a mental illness but a natural human response to loss. It’s important to recognize that other family members may also be grieving; include them in your journey of remembrance and healing. Take care of yourself by ensuring you get enough rest and engaging in activities that bring you joy—perhaps watching a comedy or exploring new hobbies like watercolor painting, which can serve as an outlet for focusing your mind away from pain.

Lastly, remember that everyone experiences grief differently; allow those who are grieving the space they need without judgment. Well-meaning words about gratitude or divine plans often fall short during such tender times. Instead, share joyful memories about their loved ones and simply be present for them this season. While many celebrate with joy and happiness, others face profound challenges during Christmas—a gentle reminder for us all to approach our loved ones with compassion and understanding as they navigate their own paths through grief this holiday season.